Over four months ago I made the hardest decision anyone in my shoes would, that spilled through the following two months. Through that period, it felt like one of those nightmares that one couldn’t just seem to wake up from. There was so much more going on in my life then and this was just the icing on the cake. Perfect, just perfect!!
It had me stepping away from the one thing that had remained constant through almost seven years of a thousand and one transitions. A friendship that had grown through the faults and battling the shocks that came with this thing called adulting. I had no intentions of getting out once I got in, making it really heavy on me.
I have always been one to regard dating with the weight of it being purposeful, only in this case my translation of the term purpose needed a tad bit more refining. Anything that needed me to spot a bus stop for any alighting, I would walk away from. I didn’t want to know anyone’s favorite colour just to have them not in my life a few months down the line. If settling down was not an option, it was definite that one of us was going to get really disappointed after all the fun and games.
My definition of dating with a purpose was simply a relationship that led to marriage, the rest of the details did not really count at all. One would think with the given definition, I’d be big on commitments; nothing could have been further from the truth (I’m !!Under construction!! though😊).
Honestly speaking, I had always been a commitment phobe, with the perk being I met someone of similar character and I guess we just convinced each other out of it. Dating always felt like such a gamble for me: How do you know it is going to last? What if I end up not liking the other bit of him that I discover ahead? Am I ready to ‘share’ or be okay with the idea of ‘sharing’? Will they wake up one morning and just want to leave? Barely a handful of the questions that one battles with in a world of a lot permissiveness where dating is concerned.
Writing this doesn’t come easy to me but I know most of my peers are at the stage in life where settling down and happily ever after are somewhere close to the top of their desires list. This being one of the many important life changing decisions one would ever make, it certainly would stir in you some serious soul-searching.
At the beginning of this year I had quite an eye-opening experience that had me questioning the known truths I had over dating and eventually sending me down a rabbit hole.
Dating with a purpose was redefined to me as the knowledge that God has to be the foundation of it all.
A God-centered relationship with both of you walking towards a common purpose that He has placed in your hearts.
The approach of an Ephesians 5 man and a Proverbs 31 woman:
gracious, virtuous, faithful and wise.
The core building blocks to the so much more available ahead paired with a surrendered heart to our Father.
For a cord of three cannot be easily broken.
The beautiful reminder that God is the author of the most beautiful love stories,
He always has been,
should give one rest about it as you get your house in order. ☺️
He is a gentleman and only if you let Him, will He lead you through it.
He has it coming free of the one too many worries that come with taking that plunge without guidance.
He will give you what He knows you need rather than what you want in a partner.
(yeah, a difficult pill to swallow for now but you’ll sure thank Him later😂)
He is your Father and definitely gets the best for His children.
There aren’t any theatrics to entrusting that to Him neither are there any in how He leads you to it.
One of His languages is the peace which surpasses human understanding.
He will also graciously grant you discernment and wisdom for it as I’m not lost at the hullabaloo that, unfortunately, has had most take advantage of others where this is concerned.
Enter rest child where this concerned as God is faithful to see you through anything and grant your request,
all you need is to trust His timing.
As you wait, He reminds us in Matthew 6:33 to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness.
This remains our primary focus as His children.
Also dive in nose deep into His work and word, enjoy that period of being single with Him as your Lover🥰.
Take it all in as it might be the only moment you won’t be having one too many distractions or demands where your time is concerned.
Remember that all is not lost and there’s way more to gain as our identity remains to be in Christ Jesus.
For any single lady that’s waiting or any lady that is considering to make that transition as I did, I would recommend you have a read on Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall.
A very much-needed refreshing perspective. Thank me later😊
Hugs and Kisses❤️❤️.
HIGHCARBLIVING 